Blood Type – Personality Traits


Type A 

 Positive Traits – Conservative, introverted, reserved, patient, a perfectionist

 Negative Traits – Obsessive, self-conscious, sometimes uptight and stubborn

 

 

Type B 

 Positive Traits – Creative, flexible, individualistic, optimistic, passionate

 Negative Traits – Forgetful and sometimes, irresponsible

 

Type AB 

Positive Traits – Cool, controlled, introverted, rational

 Negative Traits – Critical, indecisive, unforgiving and aloof

 

Type O

 Positive Traits – Ambitious, self-confident, robust

 Negative Traits – Arrogant, insensitive, vain

(source: www.dadamo.com)

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Blood Type Personalities


Beliving in astrology is quiet common in South Asia. Women often read magazines and newspapers to find out their horoscope and relationship forcast.  But, in countries like Japan people believe that one’s personality and relationship compatibility is linked to their blood type.  

Some people judge others according to astrology and signs of the zodiac. Others judge people on their blood type. This is a very common belief in Japanese, Korean and other East Asian countries. 

Since the early 1900’s, people in these countries believe that ketsueki-gata (blood type) reflects a person’s personality and compatibility with others. “What is your blood type? This is usually the third question in a conversation with someone new, after what is your name? Where do you live?” said Chiyoko Iwate Sato, a Japanese student living in London.

Sato said many people even consider blood types before getting into a relationship or marriage. “My mother also asked my dad’s blood type before she married him. Obviously that was not the only reason for their marriage but asking blood groups is very common in Japan.”

Sahj Sabharwal, an Indian-national who lives in Japan said that blood type articles were very common in women’s magazines in Japan. She said: “It is more common amongst university and college students to know each other’s blood types and judge friends based on them. But you don’t hear about it amongst older people.”

Blood group is not only limited to people’s fantasies but has also plays a role in Japanese politics. After the major earthquake and tsunami in 2011, Ryu Matsumoto, Japan’s reconstruction minister, was forced to resign and blamed his actions on the popular superstition around blood type. “My blood’s type B, which means I can be irritable and impetuous, and my intentions don’t always come across,” Matsumoto said.

Robin E. Brenner, in his book Understanding Manga and Anime, says that people are often surprised when non-Japanese people do not know their blood groups. Talking about Japan’s creative industries Brenner said, in Japan most cartoonists and animation artists mention their character’s blood type.  “Some video game characters also have known blood types. It is common for video game series to allow for blood type as an option in their creation modes.”

A South Korean movie called My Boyfriend is Type B is based on the same pseudo-scientific concept. The girl in the movie decides not to date a man because his blood type is B.

For most people, judging someone on their blood group might be unusual but it plays a serious role in Japan and Korea.

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“I’m too dark to tan!”


It is barbaric and outdated yet peer pressure will lead you to do it….no I’m not talking alcohol or drugs, I’m talking about lightening your skin. Why does white=beautiful in so many parts of the world? I am one of those girls that laughs at how desi females cake their faces in foundation that is clearly 10 shades too light for their skin tone! I turn my nose up at over the counter lightening creams, treatments and bleaches and I lose respect for females that give in to society’s pressure doing anything they can to look lighter. But now that the summer is here I’m starting to worry that I may become too dark and therefore less attractive. I went to the beach yesterday and hid under a giant parasol and SPF 50…Tanning wouldn’t have bothered me 5 years ago, in fact I’m a sun-worshipper…

I asked a group of South Asian professional  twenty-somethings about what they looked for in a partner and I am very dissapointed to say that having a “light complexion” ranked very high. When I probed them about why this was so important they couldn’t actually give  me an answer…”tradition, culture and caste” was mentioned several times. I asked my Aunty, (the one that just arranged my cousins marriage) where this ridiculous ideology comes from and she told me that darker skin signifies a lower caste. Those from low castes are   more commonly labourers or field worker and therefore are tanned from working in the sun all day.Well no one, no matter what culture wants to be associated with the lower end of the social scale but really? So that is where this complex over skin complexion comes from? Social ranking? Surely there is more to it than that?

It’s not just South Asians that are conditioned into believing ‘white is right’, has anyone else noticed how light Rihanna is looking in her new video Where Have You Been?

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She’s not the only celeb either…

Beyonce Knowles

Lil’ Kim

Supermodel-Iman

“Become a Doctor, Lawyer or Engineer!”


So like many second generation Asians, my parents have always had high expectations for me. You spend your childhood learning that “education is everything” and without it you are nothing. Then post adolescence the focus shifts from education to matrimonial potential. So I am currently excelling in the marriage department (well kind of). I recently got engaged to an Iraqi Arab. So maybe I didn’t follow my parent’s advice about “sticking to my own” but I did find someone with the same mindset and ideals as me. My parents are happy, he ticks all the boxes-good family, good education, well spoken and driven.

So as I flourish in one department I disappoint in another….yes I have done the unthinkable-I went and got a humanities degree. Not only did I do a BA in Journalism, I delayed entering the world of work and am now completely a MA in Journalism. I spent my high school years with my dad pushing me to become a corporate lawyer because it is a “respectable” job. So when my A-level results came out my parents were pretty shocked to find I had actually applied to study journalism and been accepted.

It was a first for my family; all my cousins had either taken over the family business or studied what their parents had dictated to them. What is with this narrow minded view the older generation have? Why do they turn their noses up to these so called “soft subjects”?

After much debate I convinced my dad that this was a “worthy” profession, which in fact is not just all about slagging off celebrities and scandal. My parents are very supportive and I may have just enabled the younger members of my extended family to go and do what they love, no what their parents think they should do. Despite the odd remark I occasionally get from distant relatives I have earned respect. My parents are very proud and I am the first in the family to have an Masters degree.

Below is an article I came across from an Indian Blogger. I have to say the pressure his cousin is facing is huge and I really feel for him since his father is literally putting everything he has into seeing his son follow in his profession. Although my father was quite traditional when it came to education, my mother always encouraged us to do what we wanted. As long as we were pursuing something and getting qualified it didn’t matter what subject we chose. Sadly in most South Asian households the father is in charge. I know of several cases myself in which people have had to follow a career path they didn’t want to for fear of disappointing dad, or even worse-being disowned. Is this still a concern?

Sheela’s Graduation Day 2011

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Torn between family & love – Part 1


Most Indian families believe in arranged marriages, and their reason is that they are “socially respectable family that comes from a cultured background.”

I met my friend from India, Jasmine, for dinner last weekend. When I asked her, why did she look so low? She decided to open her heart to me and left me thinking with a problem that does not seem to have a solution. 

Jasmine, 23, comes from a wealthy Sikh family where both her parents are working together in a family business. She has been a good daughter all her life, from getting the best grades in school and university, following her family traditions and religion to getting the best job possible. Her siblings follow her as a role model and her parents always spoke highly of her.

“But good things don’t last forever. My parents no longer feel good about having me as their daughter, ” Jasmine said.  Why? – Because Jasmine wants to marry the guy she has been involved with for eight years now, but her parents want her to have an arranged marriage.

No! The guy is not from a different religion or cast. Neither does he not have the same financial status as her own family. He comes from a good family; is well educated; good-looking; well mannered and highly respects her family. Firstly, the problem is that following Sikhism Jasmine’s family does not believe in cutting hair but her boyfriend cuts his hair. Secondly, it will be a love marriage and that is just not acceptable.

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Torn between family & love – Part 2


Jasmine said: “I would never even ask for love marriage if the guy didn’t fit the family. But he does. I owe everything in my life to my parents, to hurt them is the last thing I would do.” Jasmine has been telling her parents about her relationship for the past five years, but they never took it seriously and asked her to be in limits. “I did not wanted to be shocked when they ask me for marriage and I tell them about my boyfriend,” she said.

She has tried to convince her parents in all ways possible. In fact in the past year, Jasmine has tried to break her relationship couple of times. She says: “I have not had a very pleasant childhood and my teen years went out it figuring who I really was. I have moved places and families three times and they were not easy to adjust to. I have always felt divided and through those dark days the only person who has been consistent was my boyfriend. I didn’t even realise when I fell in love. But now it looks like I will have to move away from him.”

Jasmine lived with her grandparent’s till she was 10 and called them mom-dad. She was a very naughty and pampered child. Then she was sent to a very strict military-style boarding school for eight years. In the beginning she struggled to adjust but eventually found family in her friends. At the age of 13 she was told that her mom-dad (grandparent’s) were not her actual parents. She has lost her father when she was a few months old and her mother was married again as she was too young.

After finishing her boarding school at the age of 18, she wanted to go back to her grandparent’s as the meant everything to her. But listening to her family, she lived with her mother and stepfather for her undergraduate years. Adjusting into a whole new environment for the second time after boarding and moving from being a single pampered child to living with two stepsiblings, wasn’t easy in the beginning. But today she feels she “spent some of the best days of her life” with her mother.

“My stepfather and mother never made me feel different and my siblings took me well. I love them all. But I missed my grandparent’s and felt guilty, as they were there when I needed them, but now they are growing old and I can’t be with them,” Jasmine said. “Everything on the outside was perfect, but honestly I had lot of troubles adjusting. It took me so long to accept the fact that my mother left me alone only when I was a few months.”

Jasmine couldn’t be open up to her mother or grandmother completely. “There was always something’s that I just couldn’t speak about to either. Through all these years only one thing that was consistent was my boyfriend. He was and is the shoulder I can cry on, share everything I have. He supported me and guided me through some of the most difficult times. I can’t even say it in words. In the beginning we were just friends, but obviously I fell for him.”

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