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Sex and Samosas Part 1

Cover of Jasmine’s book Sex & Samosas

Is sex still a taboo in Desi culture? My friend suggested I read Sex and Samosas by author Jasmine Aziz. Copy ordered and I’m waiting for it to arrive. Meanwhile I have found an interview with Jasmine and she definitely isn’t your typical Asian female.

By Sheba Siddiqui in masalamommas

I had the chance to ask Aziz all about her experience writing this book and why she chose such a taboo subject for her first novel.

How did you become an author?
I started writing poetry when I was 5 years old. And not just naughty limerick stuff! I wrote an episode for a sitcom in Grade 6 and a play in high school which was brought to life on stage. Listening, at the back of the auditorium, to the audience laughing at my play the first night of the production was when I first realized I was a writer and that writing was what I loved doing and what I wanted to do. Thank goodness it was a comedy or I might never have kept up my writing!

Where did you find your inspiration for “Sex and Samosas”?
Mid-way through my career selling vibrators, I left the long-term relationship I was in and found myself dealing with a myriad of emotions I didn’t know how to process. One night, I did a Bollywood Bachelorette party for 16 lovely 2nd generation South Asian women. That night the seed was planted in my mind about the cultural stigmas of being single in the South Asian community and I started to write. The novel itself was a form of catharsis for me. The fact that no one will ever look at a samosa the same way again, after reading my novel, is just a bonus!

Do you use any of your own experiences in writing this book?
Like all authors, there are a few incidents that take place for Leena, the kernel of which come from my life, but the majority of the novel is fiction. And if you’re asking where the inspiration for the samosa scene came from, well, that’s something best discussed over snacks (maybe ones less triangular in shape).

What is the premise of the novel?
“Sex & Samosas” is about a young married South Asian woman, Leena,who is living a mediocre existence and is fairly content but like so many women, has never had an orgasm. She summons the courage to attend an adult vibrator party, buys a whole bunch of products to spice up her life and in turn over the course of the consequent chapters through a series of misadventures and mishaps, she learns not only how to take control of her sexual health but of her life in general.

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Too busy for love?

Calling all ladies!

It’s not easy being a a second generation South Asian female. We are constantly reminded about how our parents or parents parents came to the UK with miniscule amounts of money (in my case my dad came to London with £30), and managed to build a life for themselves through a hard work ethic and strong set of values. We have a lot to live up to, “your generation has it too easy” is something that I have heard more than enough times.  We are grinding our fingers to the bone getting qualified and building a career- you would think that would be enough to keep our elders happy? Well they are not.

Not only do we have to contend with the pressures of work, we are constantly under pressure to find a husband and settle down. Bringing feminism into it isn’t an option. I tell my parents, my mother especially that we aren’t back home and marrying in you 30’s isnt something to be ashamed of. She simply replies with “You don’t want people to think you have been left on the shelf”. So I, like many other career focused British Asian females are unsuccesfully juggling my career and personal life, whilst trying to stick to my Asian traditions and culture.

They think we are superwoman, and not ones to dissapointed our families, this blog is for all Bollywood babes. It just may help you on your quest to balance career, culture, and commitment or even just provide a space for you to share your thoughts.

Your Love Gurus

Sheela & Prerna


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